after almost 29 years she wants a dicorce?

Question

myself and spouse has known each other 31 years now and became man and wife after going together 3 years we had a great marriage and two great sons and marriage still going strong, but we got our son a computer well she started useing it to make a s long story short she met a man from another state then after i had to go on disability she got a full time job and all our charge cards paid off she told me that same night we got the answer back that our house was safe and was not going to take it from us she told me she wanted a divorce later found out after i let her and our two sons have the house we both worked on so hard i let her have it and found out later she had been going back and forth to canada was long before she asked me for a divorce and never knew a thing about it talk about being hurt why do spouses treat ecah other so harse mostly after you have gave them so much all i ever done was just love her and our sons done the best i could ever worked two full times jubs so she could be a mother liike we both wanted her to be, the thing is stil love her and part of our settlemenrt was i let her have the house and family car and took the lot we got i want to let jher and the boys have the lot and garage back what should i do? i still love and care about my ex wife and sons, i know she still loves and cares about me, she just will no admit it to me openly, thanks all , mike
it hurt me so bad i wanted to end my life but knew if i did my sons really would be the ones that got hurt from having no dad at all

Answer 1

I am so sorry for your loss; and it is tragic... I am so glad you did NOT end your life- that would not have solved things, you are still a viable, and precious human being, and as you have said, what would you children do? they love and need you very much... the best solace and consolation I know, I have found in the arms of Jesus; turning to God in times of pain like this, have given me much comfort - and a special book, a friend gave to me, 'Streams in the Desert' - by Mrs. Charles E. Cowan - this book was so instrumental during the darkests times of my life - May God bless you, and hang in there -

Answer 2

i am sorry that this has happened to you. I cannot imagine why she would do such a heartless thing to you. I hope that you can remain strong. I know that people do make mistakes and she will prob end up regretting this. i am thinking a midlife crisis or something like that, why else would she give up so much. Good luck and hopefully good things start comeing your way hun (:

Answer 3

i'm so sorry this has happened to you. I hate it when the wife ends up with everything you both worked so hard for. you are right about your boys being the ones that would hurt the most if you killed yourself though, don't do it.

I wish I could say something that would just ease your pain!!!

Answer 4

I'm so sorry for what happened to you. That is terrible! I'm glad you didn't end you life. Your children need you. That said...I think you posted this in the wrong section.

Answer 5

sorry for you situation but you want the relationships section not the trying to conceive section.